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  How do you personally deal with your still in family JWS ?

  by Finkelstein in

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  for myself i just try to avoid them intentionally maybe see them once every couple of years on average.

  they used to be easy going but over the last 10 years or so they got more cult like and distant and i'm really not bothered by that, maybe a bit.

  they stick to their own or other members like they are their family so, its makes it unattractive for myself to connect and reach out to them anymore.

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  @diogenesister - one of my DF’d nephews is like my son now. We talk or text nearly every day and go on vacations with his wife and child. Those young adults that leave need someone in their corner, someone to give them advice, listen and love them no matter what. Someone to make sure there is a roof over their head and food in the fridge.

  And they need someone to protect them until they are strong enough to protect themselves. I’ve went head to head with elders who would not leave them alone and my siblings who forged documents to make it appear they owned a vehicle they did not, with a plan to have him arrested for stealing the car. He had paid for the car with his own money. I had no choice but to get involved and put a stop to it. All because they were mad he didn’t want to be a witness. Assholes......
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  How do you personally deal with your still in family JWS ?

  by Finkelstein in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  for myself i just try to avoid them intentionally maybe see them once every couple of years on average.

  they used to be easy going but over the last 10 years or so they got more cult like and distant and i'm really not bothered by that, maybe a bit.

  they stick to their own or other members like they are their family so, its makes it unattractive for myself to connect and reach out to them anymore.

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  I have regular contact with my parents. Zero contact with my siblings. Regular contact with the DF’d relatives.

  i have a don’t ask don’t tell relationship with my parents. I wouldn’t say we are close as most of our conversations are cursory (what they did, weather, their friends etc). I didn’t speak to them for many years - they missed my college graduation and wedding due to this stupid religion. During non-COVID times they see me but lie about it to my siblings and their JW friends.

  i don’t speak to my siblings because they are toxic. I have no patience for people who are just rude, nasty people who provoke fights so they can claim to be the victim. I will never forgive either of them for the way they have treated their own children who left the religion. I have had to step in more than once when the threats and harrassment of those young adults by their parents got out of control.
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  BLM ambush two police officers sitting car. Then try to storm hospital saying I hope they die. This is the new left.

  by mickbobcat in

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  https://www.foxnews.com/us/protesters-hospital-los-angeles-sheriffs-deputies-ambushed.

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  Honestly - what is wrong with people?!?! I would have never imagined an America that had this type of behavior encouraged and praised.
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  Meanwhile over at exjw reddit

  by nowwhat? in

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  it has no value at all.

  it consists of 99% dumb, confused kids asking stupid hypothetical questions.

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  For me I’ve moved on from most things JW and am not actively involved in the day to day goings on. But politics are something I am involved in, so while I don’t comment a lot on them, I do enjoy reading them.

  Maybe the difference is the demographics of the two sites or newly ex-JW vs long time ex-JW?
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  Why Do Intelligent People Still Believe In The Jehovah’s Witness Religion?

  by minimus in

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  i understand it’s a cult.

  but what makes an intelligent person actually believe they have the “truth” as taught by jehovah’s witnesses??

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  I think it’s because they want someone else to make their decisions for them. It absolves them of responsibility for their actions and the outcomes because the organization does the thinking for them.
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  Do You Think We Will Ever Get To “Normal” Again?

  by minimus in

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  will we ever be able to congregate together for a concert or a theater?

  will we forever be wearing a mask at walmart?

  will restaurants and bars allow people to eat drink and simply hang out?.

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  I’m getting back to normal as much as Is permitted. There is no mask mandate in my area. In the past month, I’ve been out to eat, to the salon, to a casino, a car show, a concert, on a trip (airplane/hotel/rental car), a fair, and various other places.

  i am not in a high risk group and do not have contact with anyone in a high risk group. I did wear a mask as required when traveling and carried Clorox wipes/hand sanitizer.

  I’m over it - I stayed locked up for 6 months and it about drove me nuts.
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  Since We Are In 2020 What Do You Miss?

  by minimus in

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  i miss listening and dancing to live music on a weekend night.. i miss going into a crowded mall store to window shop.. i miss going out into public and not having to wear a mask.. i miss seeing people freely mingle on a busy street or sidewalk.. what a difference a year makes!.

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  I miss my old life...,,,,,, it was good. Freedom to go where I want, when I want. I miss vacations and concerts. I even miss traveling for work.
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  Did You Have Good Relationships With The Elders?

  by minimus in

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  my experience was that most jws wanted to have an elder “friend” just in case they got into any “trouble “.kinda like knowing that certain cop who might get you out of a jam.

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  of course there was another group who did everything they could to either kiss the elders’ ass or stonewall them anytime they came snooping around.. how did you and the “older men” get along?.

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  Yeah, it was pretty good. As a female I had a lot of “privileges”.

  Working in administration at the conventions, working fun assignments for the rbc.

  I remember once at an RBC a “brother” was really rude to me because I was a woman, and one of the elders heard about it, went and found him and made him apologize to me.

  Another time I was staying onsite at the RBC and it was cold. The elder I was working with got a salamander (heater) for the tent we were working out of so I could sleep in semi-comfort.

  One of the prominent elders in our circuit was worried about me when I started to falter and met me for a drink at the hotel bar during a convention to try and encourage me. It was thoughtful and nice, not creepy.😀

  Even when I left once and went back before leaving again permanently the elders didn’t hassle me at all, just told me to keep quiet about anything that might have happened while I was away, but didn’t ask about what might have happened.

  All of them pretty much looked the other way when I was dating someone, as in I didn’t get hassled. And when other sisters tried to start shit about my dress/grooming the elders shut it down. Others were not so lucky.........
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  Out Of All TV Shows Over The Years Which Were Your Favorites?

  by minimus in

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  the sopranos was my number one show.

  to me it was the best series ever.

  for a good laugh, i still enjoy the beverly hillbillies reruns.

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  Hill Street Blues - we used to come home from the Thursday night meeting and watch.

  For a more recent pick I am loving Yellowstone.
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  Are You Afraid To Publicity Express Your Opinion?

  by minimus in

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  are you reticent to express your opinion when it comes to religion or politics?.

  when we were jws , we had to be so careful that we didn’t stumble anyone.

  are you comfortable saying that you don’t agree with someone or something even if it appears you are in the minority?

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  With my friends - no not afraid. With strangers - I do not. People are crazy right now, especially if you are conservative.